Very often I see people around me reading motivation books regarding love life. Which advised you how to not be desperate, clingy, overreacting, how to control emotions so on and so for. Questions are, can you really apply those advises in your life? Are they appropriate and suitable? 

Contrary on what most people think, I like it better to love freely. I don't think living according to what people/philosophers said or quotes could make you any happier. (Bible/holy books are excluded)

Why. 
Authors may not be 100% right. 
He/she may states, "it is vital to know your limit when you're in a relationship". Sex for instance, it is advisable to not have premarital sex. Because it'll get you pregnant by accident (but you're only 16; how do you handle this?) At the end of the day, you'll have to make your choice. Whether to keep the baby or to go for abortion (termination of a pregnancy). 
Keep it, you'll have to let go of your studies. Terminate it, you're a murderer. (Unless if the baby is a threat to your life/health then it is excusable, I guess?)
This, I agree. 

However, not everyone think likewise. When you fell deeply in love with someone, you can't help but to give 100% in whatever you do. You will try your best to keep your partner happy. This includes, agreeing on having premarital sex to prove that you surrender wholly & you love your partner wholeheartedly. Because some people define sex as love. 


Sometimes, those advises on books can't be applied straight to your love life because they might not be suitable. 
It might said "Don't cry because it shows how weak you are" 
Really? Because what I know is that, faking what you're feeling will kill you emotionally. Why bother pretending that you're OK when you're not? Why say "I'm fine" when you feel like bursting into tears? Crying is OK. Expressing is OK. In fact, it is healthy to share your problems with people who you trust instead of keeping them inside you that eventually will destruct you emotionally.


Also "Don't expect too much because high expectations lead to disappointments" 

While I like it better like this, "Expect the unexpected, but know how to deal with disappointment"
Here's what I ponder: How can one not expect too much? How can they decide how much can they expect? How can you not expect acceptance/rejection when these are the only two possibilities that can happen? How can you expect not to win a competition when you practice so much? How can you not expect to pass when you're confident in answering questions? 

In conclusion, when you are in love, do only what is right. You can ask for opinions/advice but take only the positive ones. Most importantly, imagine the consequences of your today's actions before making choices in life. 

Wow. 

Just because you've never done it before, doesn't mean you have the right to judge those who did

For instance: 
Just because you've never smoked before, doesn't mean you have the right to judge those who are smoking. Or just because you're a virgin, doesn't mean you have the right to judge those who aren't.

Why? 
Bcs you don't have the slightest idea why they did it, or why they chose to live their kind of life. Bcs you're not in their shoes, therefore you don't have the right to judge them. Because you don't know what its like to be them.....

But then, the society chose to be judgmental. Instead of being compassionate, loving & understanding, they chose to be cynical & judge those who they think do not fit in the society. Esp those conservative people. No doubts that the society being judgmental is the major cause of suicide these days. Wise words from Miley Credit- (Got it from Kiqi's instagram)

I never thought or even imagined life in form six (new system) will be this stressful. Form 6 is a combination of High School & University, which makes you miserable 24/7; With all the memorizing facts, presentations, make uber long essays, assignments 5 days a week. One word, ugh. 

Guess what? I've got a new obsession! - Watching cartoon movies.

Things I ponder: Have anyone of you  here felt as if you don't really have friends & that every "friend" you have seems to put their other friends above you?

What a day!

It was my first time celebrating Merdeka in St Joseph school, to be honest, it wasn't as good & "happening" as St Teresa's. St Teresa has good emcees, a lot of performances, vote-for-best-dressed female/male teachers, lucky draw etc. Various kind of programs.... And most importantly, no classes after celebration, unlike St Joseph's.... Students ought to have classes after that.